Pregnancy, caring for small children and menopause can also take a toll on a woman's sex drive although some women experience a renewed interest in sex after The Change.
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For women, it is everything that happens 24 hours beforehand," Brizendine said. Progesterone increases fold in the first eight weeks of pregnancy, causing most women to become very sedated, Brizendine said. A woman's brain also shrinks during pregnancy, becoming about 4-percent smaller by the time she delivers, according to a study published in the American Journal of Neuroradiology. Don't worry; it returns to normal size by six months after delivery. Whether pregnancy causes women to think differently is controversial -- one recent study linked memory problems to pregnancy hormones -- but some researchers have suggested the changes prepare brain circuits that guide maternal behavior.
These circuits likely continue to develop after birth. Handling a baby releases maternal hormones, even among females who have never been pregnant, found researchers at Tufts University. While measured in rats, the finding offers a chemical understanding of the bonding that can occur among foster moms and children. The physical, hormonal, emotional and social changes facing a woman directly after giving birth can be monumental. Over the course of evolution, it was rare for our maternal ancestors to be full-time mothers, said Brizendine, because there was always kin-folk around to help with child rearing.
And a mother needs a lot of support , not only for her own sake but for the child's as well.
Her ability to adequately respond to her infant can impact the child's developing nervous system and temperament, research shows. One way Mother Nature tries to help is through breastfeeding. Nursing may help women deal with some types of stress, studies suggest. Too much stress, however, can disrupt lactation. One study even found that breastfeeding might be more rewarding to the female brain than cocaine.
The research was published in the Journal of Neuroscience in No one wants to go through adolescence again. Its physical changes and hormonal fluctuations not only create mood swings and physical discomfort but nagging questions about self-identity as well.
Women, however, lucky girls, get to do just that. They go through a "second adolescence" called perimenopause in their 40s. The statement seems to incorrectly assume that women don't change with age. Perhaps we are not a typical sample. My experienced is that young women tend to lubricate a lot and very quickly, while many of our middle-age wives in menopause have significantly reduced or zero interest in sex. In the meantime, all my male friends are still horny as hell, and always complaining about their wives' lack of interest.
So, if anything, my experience is the exact opposite -- we were sexually matched when we were young or else we wouldn't have gotten married in the first place , and now it's just pure frustration and rejection for many of us men. I say this on the basis that it seems generally that women's sex drives drop off faster as they approach menopause than men's sex drives do. Or at least that's my impression generally, and certainly my personal experience and that of my close friends.
The wife of one of my friends even admitted, "the old sex drive just isn't there anymore". I think part of the answer isn't just the men's reactions to the pill, it's their wives' reactions to the thought of suddenly having to resume sexual intercourse when they are dry and menopausal. Many such wives had assumed they no longer had to deal with sexual intercourse. Oh maybe that explains my experience. This great "harmonious" meeting of the sex drives at middle age is a myth I've heard about my whole life. Never happened. Instead, it went completely the opposite way for me and many of my middle-age friends.
You know, it's not just a mythical stereotype that men are chasing their women around all the time and they're trying to avoid sex. It's the reality for many of us, even in our 50's and 60's. This article makes it sound like all men are trying to avoid sex by that age. Not so! I'm in my late 60's and never, not even once, dealt with ED. Never needed the blue pill. But a pink pill, I'd give a million dollars for one that worked!!!
And so would many of my middle-age male friends. Your description is right on for me, early 60's. I started having erection dissatisfaction early 50's. ED drugs for me work great, make me feel like a teenager again. My wife and I practice most of what you describe and I think we are happier now with sex than ever. I do think a lot men don't get ED med refills though partly due to the cost has been high and prices kept going up and a lot of men hate going to the doctor telling them they need it. Sildenafil can now be bought at a greatly reduced price. How's your wive liking it?
A lot of women in their 50's and especially 60's don't want intercourse anymore, or have difficulty with it. My wife's sexual desire has dropped a lot after menopause, but of course, mine hasn't. We don't do full sex often, but do occasionally and she always enjoys it.
She does realize I still have a sex drive and we play in other ways that is not intercourse. She is ok with it. If a man is having erection problems with his partner but it still masturbating daily or multiple times a day, that's pretty inconsiderate of him. It goes without saying that he should cut back on the stroking and the porn that inevitably goes along with it for his partner's sake.
But the underlying premise of this article seems to be that solo sex is what a typical middle-aged man really wants, while partnered sex with his aging spouse is an obligation that needs to be put on the calendar along with dentist appointments and getting the car detailed. Funny thing, that's not the way the article strikes me.
I guess we all read with our own colored glasses. As a middle-age man who loves intimacy and sex, and whose marriage is good except for my menopausal wife who has no interest in sex whatsoever, not even during romantic vacations after a candlelight dinner, the article seems to me to be based on the false premise that all men's wives are just dying to have sex with them, with the only possible problem being their erections.
I think the reality is that there are many middle-age men who have no problem whatsoever with their erections, but they have wives who couldn't care less about their erections. In fact, I think a lot of menopausal women are relieved that their husbands have erection problems so they don't have to deal with intercourse being difficulty and painful because of vaginal atrophy and dryness. Anon, I see your point about scheduling sex around jerk off sessions. But, the wife and I only have full sex about once a month due to her low desire.
I need a release way more often that that. When she is going to want sex, she gives me a day or two notice so we both enjoy it fully. I don't ogle 18 year old porn stars though and don't use porn when self servicing. My mate is a 47 year old man with ED and our relationship is very stressful in all areas because of this.
I feel as if he is not interested or turned on by me which he says is not the case, however he is not being intamate with me at all. I know he says he turned his self off because it is mentally frustrating. I can imagine how frustrating that would be. My question is do men with ED have sexual urges? Does it cause them to become like menapausal women meaning they would just rather not be bothered?
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Has he tired ED drugs? Sildenafil is now pretty cheap and works wonders. I think most men get urges even if they don't get erections and a lot of couples still enjoy sex, oral, hands etc. I would try remedying the ED and see what happens, if he is still interested, maybe he needs a check up, hormones etc. T levels can rise and fall depending on external circumstances -- short term and long term. Testosterone is usually elevated in response to confrontational situations -- a street fight, a marital spat, a presidential debate -- or in highly charged sexual environments, like a strip bar or a pornographic Web site.
It can also be raised permanently in continuously combative environments, like war, although it can also be suddenly lowered by stress. Because testosterone levels can be measured in saliva as well as in blood, researchers like Alan Booth, Allan Mazur, Richard Udry and particularly James M. Dabbs, whose book ''Heroes, Rogues and Lovers'' will be out this fall, have compiled quite a database on these variations. A certain amount of caution is advisable in interpreting the results of these studies.
There is some doubt about the validity of onetime samples to gauge underlying testosterone levels. And most of the studies of the psychological effects of testosterone take place in culturally saturated environments, so that the difference between cause and effect is often extremely hard to disentangle. Nevertheless, the sheer number and scale of the studies, especially in the last decade or so, and the strong behavioral correlations with high testosterone, suggest some conclusions about the social importance of testosterone that are increasingly hard to gainsay. Testosterone is clearly correlated in both men and women with psychological dominance, confident physicality and high self-esteem.
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In most combative, competitive environments, especially physical ones, the person with the most T wins. Put any two men in a room together and the one with more testosterone will tend to dominate the interaction. Working women have higher levels of testosterone than women who stay at home, and the daughters of working women have higher levels of testosterone than the daughters of housewives.
A study found that in lesbian couples in which one partner assumes the male, or ''butch,'' role and another assumes the female, or ''femme,'' role, the ''butch'' woman has higher levels of testosterone than the ''femme'' woman. In naval medical tests, midshipmen have been shown to have higher average levels of testosterone than plebes.
Actors tend to have more testosterone than ministers, according to a study. Among male prison inmates in a study, those with the highest T levels tended to be those most likely to be in trouble with the prison authorities and to engage in unprovoked violence. This is true among women as well as among men, according to a study of 87 female inmates in a maximum security prison. Although high testosterone levels often correlate with dominance in interpersonal relationships, it does not guarantee more social power. Testosterone levels are higher among blue-collar workers, for example, than among white-collar workers, according to a study of more than 4, former military personnel conducted in A study found that trial lawyers -- with their habituation to combat, conflict and swagger -- have higher levels of T than other lawyers.
The salient question, of course, is, How much of this difference in aggression and dominance is related to environment? Are trial lawyers naturally more testosteroned, and does that lead them into their profession?